What if I can’t stand being around someone?

suck it up buttercup, you need to support each other

'So I, the prisoner for the Lord, appeal to you to live a life worthy of the calling to which you have been called [that is, to live a life that exhibits godly character, moral courage, personal integrity, and mature behavior—a life that expresses gratitude to God for your salvation], with all humility [forsaking self-righteousness], and gentleness [maintaining self-control], with patience, bearing with one another in [unselfish] love. Make every effort to keep the oneness of the Spirit in the bond of peace [each individual working together to make the whole successful]. ' Ephesians 4:1-3 AMP

definitely much easier to say than do, right? in the past i may have lost my temper, felt the need to correct that person (harshly and unlovingly), at times embarrassing him/her (knowingly humiliating someone), hold a grudge (being petty), ignoring them (likely considered childish), and other careless responses that showed my immaturity.

introspectively, how i handled myself in the past was wrong - mainly it’s because i was still holding on to some type of hurt, all pissed off because of what someone said or did to me, didn’t get my way, was made fun of, and the list goes on. one poor or terrible act directed at me doesn’t entitle me to act the same to someone.

when you really look at it, many of the times the issue was actually that “i” am/was the problem, not the other person. now, there will be times when the other side is completely wrong, and when they are, all you can hope for is that they apologize, ask for your forgiveness, and move on. if you can’t because you’re stuck with what had happened, that is completely on you. you can’t drink the poison hoping they will die - it just doesn’t work that way.

these verses are so powerful with instructions to take control of any situation by showing love, through mercy and grace, same as what we have received should be willingly given out too. it does need to be extended with humility, gentleness, patience, and peace in mind. doing so demonstrates our heart of appreciation for what God has done in our lives and the gift of salvation.

Father God, may i always have a heart of gratitude, understood and lived out, so that whenever i encounter someone that is difficult or being challenging, i do not let that cause me to stumble, to be unloving to them, to disappoint you and bring shame as a follower of Jesus. help me to continue to honor the first and second commandment, and i humbly ask for your help doing so. in Jesus’ name i pray, amen!